Distances are necessary

In any relationship distances hold the important part. As closeness and caring are necessary, in the same way, distances are also necessary. If one is at a far distance it doesn’t mean they don’t care for you. A boy studying in the hostel is the same caring for his family as his family caring for him.

Here I have described different reasons why distances are necessary.

1.       We value a lot what we obtain hardly.

When something is freely available to you, you will hardly hold its importance. When something is consistently available to you, it becomes invaluable to you. You have marked that when you want something, you work hard for it but, when you obtain it, it’s of no value to you, and you no more quest for it. Same way in a relation, when you have got time to spend with your friend after a long is more valuable than you spend time every day with your friend. 

2.       Too much of familiarity leads to disrespect

In Sanskrit it is said that:

Which means that “Familiarity breeds contempt”. We take everything for granted which is easily available to us. Sometimes we also forget to reciprocate the one who helps us regularly and mean a lot in our life. In Hindi, we say like”Ghar ki murgi daal baraabar”. How much someone try to do something new for us but we treat them regular and normal. When you are closer to someone you do not realize their importance in your life but, when you go far away from that person, you realize their importance. So for the realization of importance, distance is necessary for relations too.

3.       Meeting after long leaves you with a wonderful experience.

When you meet someone after a long time it leaves you with a different experience. You are so happy to be with them after too long. You, of course, have a lot of things to share. It maintains love between you and that person. Meeting someone after a long is like freeing you from the boredom of regular life. That really makes the moment perfect at the perfect time.

4.       Sometimes familiarity turns to formality

When you meet someone regularly, it sometimes makes you formal. And formal sometimes make you fake. You won’t do something for that person because of love but because of compulsion. Eventually, a relation of compulsion never thrives for longer, it ends someday. So keeping distance proves to be the best option.

5.       Lets you progress more

Sometimes spending time with a single person you forget the reality and your work. It may be possible that you forget to do your most important work or other people in your life. When you realize the fact you may feel guilty. So the better option Is Distance. Distance doesn’t mean breaking the relations but, it helps you keeping the balance between all the relations. With the help of distances, you will never have too much of sweetness or bitterness in any relation.

6.       Distance shows you the reality

While keeping the distance you can realize the worthy and non-worthy relations of your life. A true person in your life will never miss interpret you while you keeping distance with them. Sometimes it may be possible that while you are keeping the distance to maintain love in the relation, on the other hand, the person may be enraged with you. But at that time, you need to explain them the importance of distances.

Distances

Better it is to be away for a while,

from those closer to you and dearly known.

For in the fleeting time in between,

have lived your life and immensely grown.

After the terrible feeling of absence, 

to meet each other is a joy unknown.

To see each other with a new set of eyes,

with the beauty and innocence of a newly born. 

-Anonymous

Tips for keeping distances

Keeping distance in the proper way is very important to maintain healthy relations. Here are some ways to keep distance in a proper way.

1.       Instead of meeting a friend regularly, you can meet them weekly or monthly.

2.       You can sometimes even arrange a get together of your old friends.

3.       Talking to a friend regularly is not important to maintain love. A true friend will love you even if you meet them after 6 months or a year.

4.       Even talking every day leads to sharing nothing except saying “hi!!” and “Hello!”. When you meet after a long you have much to share and to say which makes the moment beautiful for both of you.

5.       By this, you and your friend will never experience boredom in the relation.

6.        Even when you meet after a long, inspire and help your friend. You can share your grief but sharing the creative ideas of yours will enhance the bond in the relationship.

7.       After a distance Hospitality increases in an enormous amount. 

My Experience

Click on the above link to see my experience on keeping distances.